Suicidal Needs Your Help

Have you ever heard someone say “I feel like committing suicide?” I know your response will be “what’s my business with that? It’s your life go and do as you please”.

I’ve heard so many blames on suicidals . We see them as people who are heartless, mad, stupid, demonic or even possessed.
Maybe they are, maybe they’re not, we can only tell if we are in their shoes.

Listening to people who attempted suicide, it was terrible for them. They had so many things in consideration, but that was the only solution and way of escape they could think of at that moment. They had gotten to the peak, they had lost the taste of what it means to live. They were frustrated and depressed. Suicide was an option, an escape route. In fact, the best option for them!

Do you know committing suicide is not just a decision one takes in 24hours? It is a decision one takes after many years of hardship, suffering, hunger, loneliness, pain, neglect, etc., as the case may be.
But, I still find it difficult to blame them sometimes. When they were craving for help, care and attention, when they needed the “don’t give up” words, and a little assurance that “everything will be okay”. When they needed a smile and someone to encourage them, no one was ready to help, no one was available. We were all busy with a thing or the other. Now the deed is done and we are all set to apportion blame. We are all ready to point them as hell bond.Probably they were reclusive, but even if they’d open up about their predicaments, would you have cared?

Suicidals are wicked, heartless and it’s a foolish decision to commit suicide, I know! But do you know how many smiling faces are depressed within? Do you even care to know? Do you know how many lives you would have saved if you had just given them your “little” attention to see beyond that smiling face and know that something is wrong?
People commit suicide because they know so little about themselves, thy have no idea what and who they were meant to be in Christ, but who is ready to shed the light of truth to them?

Instead of blaming those who are gone, can we just apply that same energy, intelligence and time to help and encourage those who are still alive and might be contemplating on giving it up and throwing in the towel completely?
I know with the current situation of the country, you care less about others but that little attention, that little care, the little act of love, those few words of encouragement can change minds. They can reverse that action, they can heal a broken soul and make a wounded heart stop bleeding.

We ignore these facts and apportion blames on the victims.
People nursing depression will NEVER talk about it for fear of what I don’t know…
But if everyone is observant of their neighbors enough, we can always see it in their face and in their actions.
Let us stop trying to fix what isn’t broken and concentrate on what’s beneficial for humanity (love and care).

Always demonstrate kindness to everyone around you(Maybe we always expect a pay back that’s why we find it hard to help others in our own little way).
See it as an opportunity and a necessity to help. We are meant to help each other.
May God help us to be there for each other and save all those who are downcast in spirit..

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Waiting On God 

#WaitingonGod

Their marriage was a marriage everyone admired. They love each other and were more than partners; you would think they had the same blood flowing in their vein. Love united them that much.
But there was a problem, She couldn’t conceive. All medical attempts proved abortive and Elkanah’s parents mounted pressure on him for a grandchild.

“Neither me or Hannah can make babies. Let’s just hold on and I believe she will bare my child(ren).” He would often tell his parents.
When the pressure of a grandchild was too much, Elkanah almost lost faith that Hannah would ever conceive, cause they had spent a lot on Hannah and there was no change or sign of her conceiving.

“I’ve heard you mother. I would take another wife.” Elkanah said to his mother who had called him to advice him about taking another wife.
“There’s nothing wrong in having more than a wife. Do you want to go to the grave without a son to carry on all this wealth?” Elkanah’s mother had told him and he thought deeply about it for he was very rich.

When he got home, he told Hannah about his plan to get another wife. Hannah felt bad, but due to her nature, she consent to it “bring her in to bare for you. I will take her in as my sister and her children as mine.” Hannah assured Elkanah and they both wept on each other shoulders.
“Thank you for understanding me” Elkanah whispered tearfully.

Elkanah soon found a lady, Peninnah. 10months into the marriage and she already had a son. Peninnah used this against Hannah and called her names and each time their mother-in-law came to visit, she’ll carry Peninnah’s baby and sing songs to provoke Hannah. But she always kept her mute and whenever she told the matter to Elkanah, he never bothered to do anything about her report.

Hannah was broken. She became depressed and year after year she kept praying and hoping for a miracle, but there was nothing to show for her prayers. She could see and feel her husband attention being fully diverted to Peninnah and her son.

Two years later and Peninnah was pregnant again. Soon she had another baby boy and this added to Peninnah’s portfolio of “The Good Perfect Wife.” Everyone, including those in the neighborhood now looked spitefully on Hannah, for some of them had once said “the problem of their barrenness might be from Elkanah But now, Peninnah has two sons by that same Elkanah.

The shame and spite from everyone made life unbearable for Hannah, but she didn’t loose hope. She always believed she would carry a child in her womb and give birth to healthy babies.
It was always her prayer at the annual conference in the head quarters of her congregation.

On this particular conference, on the last day of the conference, Hannah had knelt on the altar when the Church was almost empty and whispered words that no one could hear. Everyone that passed by felt she was crazy or maybe she had taken a strong drink and it made her act like that. But Hannah was silently praying and ignored their words.

Few months later, Hannah felt feverish and occasionally weak. No one could have thought she was pregnant; not even Hannah herself. When the fever got worst, Elkanah took her for a check up and it was confirmed that Hannah was pregnant.
Hannah’s joy knew no bounds and she gave thanks to God for answering her prayers
“for a child I prayed and the Lord has given me my petition which I asked of him.”

Few months later, she had a cute, strong and healthy baby boy after many years of waiting and she named him Samuel.

Hannah was blessed with 3sons and 2daughters and she eventually had more children than Peninnah.

The Lord is always near to those who trust in Him. The Lord maketh poor and maketh rich: He bringeth low and lifted up.
He will keep the feet of His saints, and the wicked shall be silent in darkness; FOR BY STRENGTH SHALL NO MAN PREVAIL.

Hold On(Sometimes In August)


Sometimes in August

Even though I’m timid and hate to open up and admit some things, I just have to let this one out.

I recall the excruciating pain that kissed me “Happy August!” Knowing fully well that there was nothing to be happy about in pain. I reluctantly gave my cheeks to be kissed and watched silently how it taunt and hurt me in the most annoying way.
I’m not a stranger to pain, but this one held me down so strong and I was between life and death. For a moment in my health journey, I understood pain defers from pain just that it answers the same name.
I had deceived myself a long while ago that “tears is for weaklings” so I didn’t cry and no one really understood the gravity of what I was going through.

I remember writing “I’m walking through the valley of the shadow of death” on my Facebook timeline and only a few bothered to ask what I meant by that.
You see, until you’re tried with what you thought you’ve overcome, you will always believe it can never weigh you down or get at you anymore.
And not until you loose some things, you will never appreciate the value of it because you’ll always take it for granted.

I lost my wholeness to pain for a whole week and some days and it was only then It dawned on me and I understood I am enjoying a supernatural inner health despite the physical health that seems to look bleak.
I felt what it means to be far from the fountain that flows to satisfy my soul and I crawled back to it grateful for all it springs forth, not minding the emptiness my mind and laziness had lured me to believe.

My testimony though, I learnt to be grateful for the little things and I’ve been counting since then till now, over a month and I haven’t tasted those pills that I’ve been placed on for years and I’m doing really great without it(them)! Not like it was effective or it eased me completely of what I use it for daily, but the fear of ‘whatever’ gripped me didn’t make me miss a dose. It was crazy! This isn’t by my understanding or by my faithfulness, but by Grace. I don’t know why God loves me so.
Looking back at it now and I’m grateful!
If you’re healthy and living your life without any medical aid and you still rant about life, you don’t know what you’ve got! You don’t even know the privilege you’re blessed with!

Dear One,
No matter what you’re going through and how far away hope seems, just hold on and see beyond the bleakness.
Even though it seems like you see little or no changes in that situation that has kept you on your knees for eons, just believe that: beyond that frowning providence, God hides a smiling face with a timing more favorable and glorious than yours.

#keepyourcool
#holdon
#believeinlittlebeginnings
#grateful
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Happy New Month 

Each morning comes with renewed hope, another chance and a great opportunity to do better than we did yesterday.
Make each day count!
Live each day with hope!
See greatness in every thing you do!
Believe more in God and never loose up no matter how frail the circumstances are; God is always a prayer away!

Welcome to September!
God love and protection is sure over our lives.
I love you all!
Happy New Month!!!

Save A Child

You stared at that scar again
You’ve always observed it with so much gaze
“What could have caused you a visible scar in such a place?”
You asked
I only smiled in reply

You walked closer to feel it this time
“It’s smooth to the touch” you said
“But how come with such a scar that’s so bold beside your eyes?
Maybe it’s a bacteria or a form of skin infection” you concluded
“I don’t really know” I retorted

But all the while I kept staring at you
Images flashing through my mind like a thriller through you
“You had asked who took what you kept here?”
I told you the truth but you refuse to believe
Yes I do steal cause you hardly feed me
Though I was truthful with you this time but you failed to believe me

In no time, the turning stick became your lance
You used it on me like you were piercing a piece of wood;
More like you were beating an object without feelings.
I wailed and groaned under your lock as you continued mercilessly.
That wasn’t your first time,
But this time you smacked me more gruesomely.
At that moment,
I wished I was with my mum and not with you.

How would I forget going to school the following day;
With my right eye swollen, bruised and black
I could barely see what was beside me save I made a turn
The hoot of a coming car made me freeze
I thought I’d looked carefully enough
But my sight was very poor;
That car almost hit me down but you never knew.

I was just six,
But the picture still sticks
It seems like yesterday, though it’s seventeen years now.
I smiled at your touch on that scar you caused many years ago
I wish you knew the truth about it
I wish you have cared enough to be kind to me
I wish you never maltreated me causing me such pernicious physical and emotional pain
I wish you took me as your daughter and not a mere niece.

To someone out there,
You might have a child in your care
A child you abuse verbally and domestically
The pain you inflict on them makes them shattered
It leaves a lasting scar; not just on their skin, but on their mind.
You might forget;
Of which you’ll eventually do
But that child would never forget
You might see them as nothing today,
But will eventually need them for something important again.

Treat every child right
Every child has a right to be happy and no child is more important than the other.
In Anything you do to a child,
Don’t abuse them in anyway
Let’s save the future of every child from being traumatized

Say no to domestic violence!

Rants Of A Teenager

Do they ever listen?
How I’m sure they really understand my plight?
Is there any sense of empathy in you two?
Do they really care?
Why are you two like this?

I thought you’re my parents;
A place I can go to and rely solely on
I thought you’re friends;
Someone I can trust always
But I got the opposite
I try to believe it’s your busy schedule
But I don’t know what to believe anymore.

I have questions
I need answers
I crave for attention
I want to understand some changes
I need your perspective about issues
But you’re never ready to heed
Maybe it’s a crime to be a teen
A grave disaster to ever grow up with inquisitions

At first, I felt you’re busy
I tried to understand
But it’s now constant
And it’s killing me inside
How can you be too busy for me?
Do I really deserve the silent treatment;
One word one answer for every quest?
Money could fade away;
Business might die down
But I’ll always be here;
Coping and persevering through thin and dark with you
But I don’t think you understand that truth.

Now I try to find a listening ear elsewhere
Trust was what I always feared
But I dared to take that step
And now I’m someone you don’t know;
Someone I wish I knew myself
I found the answers to the quest you should have made ease for me in the hard way
Is this how it ought to be?

I think about my child
I imagine him or her threading this same path
Paths of a teenager who needs answers to their inquisitions
Path that makes us wonder about the changes in our bodies and mind
I imagine him or her seeking answers and attention elsewhere
And I understood what it means to give my time and attention to my child
Too bad you let me learn the hard way!

I Killed A Man 

I had been acting weird
But no one knew my heart had been seared
Not with a spear or an arrow
But by the way I was marred.
My innocence was taken By a man who called himself a father.

I tried to talk to you mummy
I tried to make you understand my shortcomings
But you were always too busy!
“I don’t have much time to talk”
You’ll always retort.
I sat with you in the kitchen
And each time I tried to speak
“His food should be ready already”
Was what you’ll say.

I had come back from school
He was always at home
He started with fingering
And said it was nothing.
I grew older and it got wider
He expanded his horizon
A man who sleeps with a mother and her daughter
It disgusts me
I planned to kill him
Before he gets to my little sister.
If he did defiled me
Though not my biological father, it won’t be a big task to defile her
Who’s biologically his

I tried to get your attention
I tried to make you understand
But you were just too busy
Do you ever listen?
Do you even care?
Do you feel my plight?
Guess you were too occupied to be there
Now I’ve done the forbidden;
I’ve killed a man
Not just a man,
But your husband
The man you always tried to defend
But whom I detest

I had hoped you’ll see the signs
And understand why I always sigh
I’ll shudder at the tiniest slam of the door
But you felt I was possessed by a demon
“He came again last night”
I had said
But you didn’t even listen
Maybe you heard
But just felt to ignore
I made up my mind to kill a man,
Maybe the blindfold will fall from your eyes
And you’ll see more clearly.

“He always tries to sleep with me”
I explained
But you said I was crazy and my father wouldn’t do such a thing to me
“He’s my step-father!”
I exclaimed!
You were never around
And he always had his way
Too late you believed
Only when you saw his unclad lifeless body in my room
I was tired of his continual coming
I’d kept a knife to end the mess
I’ve killed a man
I hope you now believe me.

Parents out there
I know you are busy
You need to make ends meet
But do you have time for us?
We need your attention as much as you need money
We’ll adapt even if your business fails
But we’ll never outgrow the pain of making a mistake you would have helped us avert.

Please take us seriously,
We need your time,
We need you to listen
We need you to explain
We need you to believe
And we need you to understand
Even our very irrational quest.
I’ve killed a man because my mom didn’t believe and she never tried to understand.

Strength; Beyond The Physical Muscle 

Once upon a time, a young man who didn’t see any possibility of being strong enough to fight, threshed wheat in a winepress to hide it from the enemy.
While he was busy trying to get the wheat in a safe place, he saw a man under a tree close to where he threshed and the sight made him quiver. He thought he was an enemy and this made him scared the more.
“How on earth will I fight this man if he happens to be an enemy and if I should let him leave with this wheat, my family will die of hunger.” Those were his thoughts when the man called Gideon and told him how mighty he is.

Those words of mightiness made Gideon chuckle and he talked about his weakness and how lowly he thought himself and his family to be. Little did he know he was speaking with an Angel.
The final assuring phrase from the Angel woke up the strength in him.

For the first time in his whole life he knew he was greater than the physical weak muscle. With this grace, he became bold and what seems like a challenge became a child’s play to him and by this weakling the enemies of a whole nation was stayed.

God is so great that He can use anything and anyone to bring forth His Praise. It doesn’t matter how weak, hidden, cast out or little you are, He can use you for His glory. He can bring you from that low estate and set you above those you once looked up to for help. That is how wonderful His grace is when it speaks for you..
Grace can speak for you and bring you out even in the deepest pit.

Are you going through a tough time and you think God has forgotten you? All He said seems to be a lie ’cause you have waited for eons and you don’t see it coming?
Just wait on Him. Don’t give up yet!
He knows how to confront the mighty things of this world with base things and the all wise challenge is nothing but foolishness to Him.
He loves you and He cares! If it wasn’t for His glory, He wouldn’t permit that challenge.
You are greater than you ever imagined and your miracle is closer than you think.
Always see possibilities in every impossibility and strength in every weakness!

Seeking For Answers?

Earlier today I was singing the hymn “When The Roll Is Called Up Yonder” with my nephew and a voice within asked “if the roll is called this moment will you truly be there?” I just smiled and shook my head trying to wave the thought away.

Lately I’ve been far from the Fountain that flows to bring me peace. I stare at the Bread of Life but I’m not sure of what to do with it. The challenges and pain I faced these past weeks seems to have had an hard toll on me; it almost swayed me away. Despite my timidity, I have to admit that I almost threw in the towel. It was that serious!
But God always knows a way to drag Fikayo back to the Cross and awaken me again. Why He always does that will be one of the many questions I’ll ask God when I see Him.

I think my falling away from Him always comes from the fact that I’ve always held Him as this Supreme Being somewhere far away that choose whom to bless and whom to talk to. I’ve had this imprecision that: I can’t ask Him questions with the fear of the quote “no one can question God.” It took me forever to understand that God is not a weirdo who I can’t talk to freely and this kept me in confusion and affected my state of mind and even after knowing the truth that I can ask Him any question about anything that seems to confuse me, I still find it a difficult thing to adapt to.
I’ll just hoard it in and after a while I’m like “God just stay away for a moment for me to get myself together. I can’t even afford to ask you why all these is happening to me. I’ll be back when I have it all sorted out.”

But He(God) on the other hand keeps watching and when He sees that I’ve learnt my lessons, but I’m about to quit on everything, He shows up again and brings me back in His hands like a little baby; I’m His baby anyways.

One truth is this: God is not a weird Father and Friend whom we can’t ask questions. Jeremiah 33:3 settles this. We can’t question His authority or question Him for His plans or why He made something so, but we can always ask Him about issues we are confused and not sure about.

I hate it when I have to put Him in such stress of dragging me back every now and then, I know He isn’t complaining about that.. But I want us all to know we are serving a God who sees and knows where the shoes hurt, but He wants us to speak and talk to Him if we really want to keep the shoes or pull it off.
He knows we are seeking answers to those questions, but He wants us to commune with Him and ask questions about the situation to get answers.

God can’t be questioned, but we can surely ask Him questions that I know for sure and these two are different phrase with different meaning.
Hey there, what is it that is bothering you like me? What questions have you lurked within and wish to find answers to, but you are too scared to ask?
Believe me, you are Just a prayer away filled with all your questions and everything will be settled.
It’s time you open up and let the healer set you free!

Putting My Experience Into Words 

My main objective of creating a blog was for me to find a place where I can freely express myself and my pain without the fear of anyone looking down on me. 

Facebook would have been a good place for that, but family and friends are all there following my every post and I’m the natural reclusive type. I hoard things to myself a lot. Maybe for fear of being judged; I don’t really know! But I prefer keeping it all to myself and writing it down at intervals.

Recently I realized I’m not the only weird one on earth and someone out there might need to read from me to understand he or she is not alone in their plight.

We are all here on Earth for a purpose and no matter how we try to hide, we will never be able to escape our destiny. No matter how complicated your life may be, I want you to always have this in mind “Hope Is Just A Step Away.”

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